We treat "the new" better than "the tried and true"! People also do this with new cars, new jobs, and other new things that comes into their life. In fact the longer a couple is together the more often they feel it's ok and (expected) to "slack off". Very few men or women put in the same kind of effort they did in the beginning. Once there's an emotional investment or commitment they "relax" and reveal their "authentic selves". In fact most relationships go through what I call an "infatuation phase" where (both) people bend over backwards to impress their new object of affection. "Ladies, being romantically chased by a guy only means something if he is working just as hard to keep you once you are in an exclusive relationship." Commentsĭashingscorpio from Chicago on December 12, 2016:
#THRILL OF THE CHASE MEANING PROFESSIONAL#
Content is for informational or entertainment purposes only and does not substitute for personal counsel or professional advice in business, financial, legal, or technical matters. This article is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge. If not, don't waste your time playing games with this type of man.let him go chase after someone else! Your future self will thank you. Ladies, being romantically chased by a guy only means something if he is working just as hard to keep you once you are in an exclusive relationship. She's preoccupied with her personal life-job, kids, etc.She was emotionally, mentally or physically hurt by a guy in her past (possibly the same guy that wants her back).When a woman shows disinterest in a guy or isn't trying to jump into a relationship this tends to occur for various reasons: What many men fail to realize is that most women aren't purposely playing hard to get. Also, they tend to become bored rather easily. Unfortunately, men who enjoy the thrill and excitement of the chase will be so good at it, that you won't be able to decipher if it's real. Nope! Honestly, the only thing you did wrong was giving this type of guy any of your attention in the first place. He starts nitpicking (a lot)-finding things about you that he doesn't likeĪs women, we will blame ourselves for this man's sudden apparent disinterest, thinking that we did something wrong.When he finally makes time for you he isn't emotionally or mentally present-he's on his phone.He is less affectionate with you in public-rarely holds hands or kisses you anymore.His schedule becomes busy with other obligations to other people and events.He doesn't include anymore you when he goes out with friends, family and/or co-workers.When he does see you, he fits you into his schedule last minute and is disengaged.You can't remember the last time he planned a date.He rarely tells you he misses or loves you.His communication lessens-fewer calls/text messages throughout the day (and eventually during the week).Then, once you have been swept off your feet and have either slept with him, become exclusive or fallen in-love, after time (weeks to possibly three months later), his feelings toward you start to change. He's extremely mentally and emotionally available when he's with you-his phone will be off or on vibrate or he won't have it with him at all.He will bring flowers or small gifts every time you see him.He includes you on his plans-seeing friends, family members or co-workers.He pre-plans days when he wants to see you-not waiting until last minute.He calls or text messages every day-and multiple times throughout.His action make you think that the thought of you not being in his life is unthinkable.